We are only human. . . paying attention to our growth
Trusting our partner has a lot to do with trusting ourselves. When we feel confused, unsure, or in conflict about our own direction. We may shift our attention outside ourselves. Even when we feel unsure about our self-worth, our negative feeling may crystallize as blame directed toward someone else. Looking outward in that negative way and avoiding responsibility for ourselves makes liars of us. When we do that we are not paying attention to our own growth, not looking at the truth. If we do not claim ownership of our part in a conflict, we will not be able to trust our partner either. We build trust when we are honest with ourselves and expose our truth and vulnerability to our mate.
Merle & Mavis Fossum